Eating sand, shaving her head, in this family, this mother lets the children do whatever they want


Author: Clark Tos
2022-11-17 19:08:01

Raising children is unique to each parent. In the United States, to allow their children to learn on their own, a couple decided to let them do whatever they want.

Credit: Mara Doemland / SWNS

Mara Doemland and Christopher Mareth live in the State of Texas and have four children: Emmy (9 years old), Murphy (7 years old), Ripley (5 years old) and Indy (2 years old). The way of life of the family, and especially of the children, has been talked about a lot since it was shared on the Internet during an interview with the media SWNS. Why ? Because the latter consists of letting children do whatever they want, and thus grow with their own experiences in order to achieve autonomy.

Whether it is for the way of dressing, the choice of food, the desire to share their toys (or not) or the way of dressing, the siblings are completely free to make their choices. This very particular type of education may be widely controversial, but Mara and Christopher are convinced of its positive virtues in the long term. This choice obviously gives rise to improbable looks and scenes, but for the couple only one thing matters: that their children be happy and fulfilled.

For example, when it comes to daily clothes, the four children fully choose the clothes they want to wear and the same goes for hairstyles. As a result, Emmy, the eldest, did not hesitate to shave her head and one of their sons regularly puts on dresses. “We want them to be comfortable and wear what makes them happy. Emmy has a shaved head and only wears baggy black clothes at the moment” confides the mother. Same with the shoes. The offspring are allowed to wear it on almost all occasions. Mara explains: “I let my children be barefoot unless the ground is too hot. Emmy and Indy love being barefoot. »

Credit: Mara Doemland / SWNS

Intuitive eating is an important part of this philosophy of life. His goal ? Make sure there are no forbidden foods and thus put all the options on the same level. According to the couple, this would prevent the creation of food taboos and even allow children to choose by their own will to turn to fruits and vegetables. “I let them drink coffee if they want to try but they don't drink it like adults do. They don't take espresso all day. I don't agree with restricting food for my children. I don't want them to have a negative relationship with food. I make sure all foods are available to them, which doesn't categorize certain foods as 'special' or rewards.' entrust the parents.

For toys, in this home, the members of the siblings have no obligation to lend them or share them if one of the brothers or sisters requests it, it is at the discretion of each . And here is Mara's explanation to justify this education of the child king: “if one of my kids is playing with something and another wants to play with it too, we don't force them to share if they don't want to. As an adult, you can't always share things so I don't think it's something kids should do. »

Credit: Mara Doemland / SWNS

Encourage children to learn through their own discoveries

The couple radically changed their approach after realizing that they had been far too strict with Emmy, who was born when her mother was only 19 years old. 'I was mean and had no patience when I got the Emmy' she recalls. Today, Mara and Christopher want to put less pressure on themselves but above all to make it less of a burden on their children. This educational choice inevitably leads to bad experiences, such as when parents do not stop children who are about to eat sand, but whatever, the mother says: 'They spit it out and say 'yuck'. They'll probably do it a few more times before they learn. I'd rather have them learn on their own than scare them. »

Credit: Mara Doemland / SWNS

Credit: Mara Doemland / SWNS

One thing is certain, this original education is not to everyone's taste! What do you think ?